By Shy Archer, London, Ohio USAMy boyfriend and I found out that we were going to have our first child, in September of 1999. We were both pretty happy and things. There was alot of stress.
PROM at 20 weeks + 5 days. Delivery at 20 weeks + 5 days.
Story added: 2000-05-18
Because my Grandmother had been very sick and she was very close, she raised me from a baby. My doctors appt's were ok, Joe the father of the baby did not want to go to the doctors with me, he left it up to my sister Selena. The Doctor I went to I thought at first was a good doctor at first. Then I start to have bad headaches he gave me medicine it did'nt help the headaches.
November 30,1999 I found out that Joe and I were going to have a baby boy, we started to pick out names, when I first found out I was pregnant. The middle part of December, I stated to spot a little and Doctor put me on best rest for a week. Then I got really sick I had a temp of 104 and was dehdrated, unable to hold food down, I went to the ER they put a IV in me and then sent me home 2 hours later. Then December 23 I was hid from the behind with my car, I felt fine. Well December 26, 1999 my water broke, I really did'nt know what was happening.
So Joe took me to the ER they took me to the materinty ward. The nurses were helpful for awhile. The doctor told them if the bleeding does stop for me to come in Tuesday. Well the bleeding did not stop. The the Doctor came in and did the examination, there was no fluid around the baby, he said I would have to have a abortion. I had only the two nurses and the doctor there, he just walked out I was crying. Joe and my Mom was not there yet.
I felt so alone at that time, I called my Mom she came, she held me while I cried, then she called the pastor of her church he came there and prayed for me and the baby. Then Joe came and Mom and Joe step outside and she explained to him what happen. He started to cry, he stayed there with me all night. Well the nurses came in talking about funeral arrangements,s o I kinda lefy it up to Mom a little. I knew I did'nt want him cremated.
My doctor would have to send me to another hospital, since Joe and my Mom wanted me to be induced. The baby heart beat was 156, even though there was no fluid around him, he was never in distress at all. My pulse and blood pressur was very high. They transported me to the biggest hospital in Ohio. I got there, even though they knew the outcome, I was'nt treat like I was having a baby. Nurses came in once and awhile to check on me. The intern doctor came and and came me meds to induce my labor. At that time it was like 8:30 p.m. December 27, 1999.
My Mom went and got the nurse to give me something for the pain, well they came in around 10 or so. And gave me morphine. Well I started to feel like I had to push, Mom and Joe went and got the nurse they showed up around 11:00 or so. They finally got me to the Labor and Delevirey room. It was around 11:45p.m. Well I fell alseep b/c it had been rough. Well I woke uplike 5 mintues later, they were going to do a epirdul, well the doctors let me get up to go to the bathroom, I barley made it to the bathroom and the baby came out, it I did'nt grab the gown like I did he would have hit the floor. I got back up on the bed, I did'nt even relize what was going on at that time. Joe and Mom were crying. I could'nt cry. We named him Kevin James. His middle name was after Joe's brother Jim. I held him for awhile, Mom and Joe held him also.
I got a birth certificate, they took pictures of him, he was born still born, I think the hospital could have done something if they would have came and checked on me, but they did'nt. The nurse took Kevin to the morgue. I really did'nt want him to leave.
He weigh 10.9 oz and 10 inches long. He was born December 27, 1999 he was due May 13, 2000 a day before Mother's Day.
I did'nt get much sleep at all really the next day it hit me. They gave us the choice to transport the baby with us or have the funeral home come and get Kevin. I decided to transport him to the funeral home in my Mom's van. They put him in a duffle bag Mom and Joe took him to the van. The nurse gave me my discharged papers and sent me home.
This lady her name is Joan Maynard she came in and gave me clthes to put Kevin in and took polarid pictures of him. I'm glad that I have pictures of him. Well I kept telling Joe we have to go since Kevin would be getting cold. He did'nt know what to say to me. Well it was snowing pretty bad. I took Kevin out of the bag and held him the whole way home it took almost two hours to get home, because of the snow, I fell alseep with him in my arms, we final;y made it to the funeral home and I started to lose it greatly. Joe carried Kevin into the funeral home. We made the arrangements for the funeral. We buried Kevin James Mayabb December 30, 1999 at 1 p.m. He had his Dad's nose.
The day of the funeral was very hard for Joe and I. He carried Kevin to where he would be buried at. I lost it right then. I had a special friend that help Joe and I alot through everything his name is Jeff Phipps. I really appreciate everything he did for me and Joe. Mom read a poem at the funeral, she started to cry alot. The one person I wanted so much to be there was my Grandmother she had just gotten out of the hospital that day.
Well we went to Joe's brother house and we all went out to eat. I really did'nt feel like doing anything at all. My Aunt told my grandmother that Kevin died, my grandmother had a massive stroke and she was not going to get any better. January 6, 2000 she was worse, Kevin had only been gone a week or so.
I went to the hospital laughing and joking like crazy I did'nt know how to react at all. I spoke to my grandma she said she was going to go up to heaven and take care of Kevin, because right now my grandpa was taking care of him. January 8, 2000 she passed away. Almost two weeks after Kevin died. I know she and Grandpa are in heaven taking care of Joe and I baby boy. They will be both sadley missed. Thank you for letting us share our story.
Kevin James Mayabb
December 27, 1999 To December 27, 1999
Parents of Shy Archer and Joe Mayabb
Grandparents: Sandy and Raymond Cooper Linda Neal
Aunts: Selena Archer
Uncles: Tim Dunn and Jim Mayabb