After 6 months of clomid, and two IUI’s
we got pregnant with twins after our
first IVF. We were so delighted could
hardly believe it. Around the 10th week
I began to have some bleeding. We had a
scan and everything was OK. A week
later
I felt a gush of blood around midnight
and we returned to the hospital. Again,
much to our relief, they both looked OK
and we were sent home. This was in
December so we had a fairly nervous
Christmas but at 14 weeks the bleeding
stopped. I had felt really unwell for
the first 13 weeks but began to improve
dramatically from there.
Then one Saturday, just two days before
21 weeks, I felt a pop and knew that my
waters had broken when I felt the
gushing. I was admitted to hospital and
the scan showed that the fluid was
leaking from the first twin. We were
told we just had to wait and see but
that the chances were not very good.
Four days later I went into labour.
However when my labour stopped the
doctor performed a scan and said the
head of the first baby was just in my
vagina and he would try and deliver
without disturbing the second baby.
Using a forceps he delivered our first
little girl Jacinta using forceps. She
lived for just a few minutes but was
too
tiny at just over 21 weeks to survive.
The second baby stayed in situ and we
had the awful situation of mourning our
first little girl while trying to keep
our hopes up for the second baby. I was
so anxious, thinking that every twinge
was a sign of labour coming on for the
second time. On the same day that
Jacinta was buried we had a scan later
in the afternoon. I was unable to
attend
the funeral because I was still in
hospital. But from such a dreadful
morning we got very hopeful news and
saw
the baby moving around and looking
beautifully healthy. We were so afraid
to hope.
Our doctor was wonderful, optimistic
but
not unrealistic. I was put on various
antibiotics and as the days passed I
could see that he was getting more
hopeful. I was scheduled for another
scan on Friday, which would have been
ten days after Jacinta’s birth. However
on the previous night I developed a
fever and high temperature. It was
clear
I had developed the dreaded infection.
At 3am he performed an amniocentesis to
see if the baby also had the infection.
An hour later the result came back that
the baby was fine. The following day my
temperature had dropped a little but it
kept creeping back up. The medical
staff
stressed that if it came to a choice
between me and the baby they would have
to induce labour.
But on the Saturday evening my waters
broke again and a short time later I
went into labour and delivered our
second beautiful daughter Lara. Despite
being able to hear her heartbeat when
my
labour started she was stillborn. We
were broken hearted. It’s still so hard
to believe my babies are gone so long
before they were even due to be here.
The subsequent tests showed that I had
had an ascending infection but really
it
tells me nothing useful because that is
probably an infection that occured
after
the first delivery.
Now it seems so strange that when we
are
mourning our little girls we have to
think about trying again. I’m 36 so
feel
we don’t have the luxury of time. We
have two frozen embryos from our IVF
cycle. The last time 2 were transferred
which resulted in our twins. The
problem
is that our obstetrician feels we
should
only transfer one the next time. Our
clinic doctor says that of course it
will be our decision ultimately but
it’s
clear that he believes its best to go
with 2. I’m wondering if any else has
had similar experiences? I only found
this website after leaving hospital,
and
certainly wish I had had it while
there.
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