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I have been with my partner for 18
years. After 12 years of using the
same birth control method we were very
surprised to find out we were
pregnant. After the initial shock
wore off, we were very excited about
becoming a family. I experienced
spotting for the first trimester, but
was checked, and told by my doctor
that everything seemed to be okay.
Other than that I was having a very
easy pregnancy with very little
morning sickness, and a little
fatigue. We heard the heart beat,
and it was strong. Because of my age
(almost 36 at the time) I had the
triple screen test done. It came back
with there being a risk of spina
bifida, so we went for a level II
ultrasound at 18 weeks (Tuesday).
They could find no defects, and said
every thing looked great. Oh yeah,
and we were having a boy. My partner
was so excited. The following Monday
I woke up with wet underpants. I was
very scared, but thought it might be
urine, so I waited 2 hours to call my
doctor instead of rushing to the ER.
The whole time I felt a watery
discharge. My doctor fit me right in,
and did an exam, and said that I had
bv, and that that was what was causing
the watery discharge, and prescribed
antibiotics. She warned that I might
bleed a little bit because of the
exam. I went home relieved that this
was just an infection. I bled a
little that day and the next, but then
it stopped. Thursday evening I felt
more discharge, and when I went to
check, it was bright red blood. I
called my dr. immediately, and was
told to go to the hospital and the
partner on call would meet me on the L
& D floor. Once there, I was taken in
immediately, and given an ultrasound.
There was no amniotic fluid. The dr.
was pretty sure the discharge I had
felt was my water breaking. He gave
me the grim prognosis, but wanted me
to go see a specialist where I had had
my level II us the week before. The
next morning we drove once again the 2
hours to the specialist. Another us
showed no fluid, but little boy was
doing great. We were told that the
prognosis for our little boy was
dismal, and induction was
recommended. Having not found this
site yet, I thought they knew what
they were talking about, tearfully, we
agreed to induction and termination.
They scheduled us for the following
Monday. At first we were so angry
that they were going to make us wait
the whole weekend. We drove the 2
hours home, and settled in to wait,
taking my temp every 4 hours, and
crying. Saturday night while we were
trying to get some sleep, my partner
had his had in just the right place,
and felt our son kick for the first
time. He got to feel several more
kicks over the weekend. By Sunday
morning we were thankful that we had
been given the weekend to bond with
our son, name him (Adam) and start to
come to grips with what was
happening. On Monday morning we
loaded back in the car, and once drove
the 2 hours to the big hospital. I
was admitted, and settled in to a
private room on the L & D ward. At 2
they started the induction, and at
6:12pm I gave birth to our Adam. I
had been told to expect the induction
to take at least 16 hours, so I was
very relieved that it only took 4.
Adam was so young they would do
nothing to try to keep him alive, so
after he was cleaned up, we were given
him to hold and say goodbye to. He
lived for 3 hours, which everybody
found miraculous. He was perfect,
just so small (9 ½ inches, 11
ounces). Now I am waiting to find out
if they can come up with a reason for
my pprom. Did I really have bv?? I
wish I had found this site before I
went to have induction. I might have
waited. I made it 1 week with out
going into labor, and I was already on
antibiotics. We so want a baby now.
We know no one will replace Adam, but
once we got used to the idea we were
going to be parents, we decided this
was what we really wanted. I know
everyone says to wait, but I’m 36, and
I don’t want to wait too long. I know
I will be terrified the whole
pregnancy, and don’t want to have the
added worry of age related
complications that are already
increasing.
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