My boyfriend and I found out that we
were going to have our first child, in
September of 1999. We were both pretty
happy and things. There was alot of
stress.
Because my Grandmother had been very
sick and she was very close, she raised
me from a baby. My doctors appt's were
ok, Joe the father of the baby did not
want to go to the doctors with me, he
left it up to my sister Selena. The
Doctor I went to I thought at first was
a good doctor at first. Then I start to
have bad headaches he gave me medicine
it did'nt help the headaches.
November 30,1999 I found out that Joe
and I were going to have a baby boy, we
started to pick out names, when I first
found out I was pregnant. The middle
part of December, I stated to spot a
little and Doctor put me on best rest
for a week. Then I got really sick I
had a temp of 104 and was dehdrated,
unable to hold food down, I went to the
ER they put a IV in me and then sent me
home 2 hours later. Then December 23 I
was hid from the behind with my car, I
felt fine. Well December 26, 1999 my
water broke, I really did'nt know what
was happening.
So Joe took me to the ER they took me
to the materinty ward. The nurses were
helpful for awhile. The doctor told
them if the bleeding does stop for me
to come in Tuesday. Well the bleeding
did not stop. The the Doctor came in
and did the examination, there was no
fluid around the baby, he said I would
have to have a abortion. I had only the
two nurses and the doctor there, he
just walked out I was crying. Joe and
my Mom was not there yet.
I felt so alone at that time, I called
my Mom she came, she held me while I
cried, then she called the pastor of
her church he came there and prayed for
me and the baby. Then Joe came and Mom
and Joe step outside and she explained
to him what happen. He started to cry,
he stayed there with me all night. Well
the nurses came in talking about
funeral arrangements,s o I kinda lefy
it up to Mom a little. I knew I did'nt
want him cremated.
My doctor would have to send me to
another hospital, since Joe and my Mom
wanted me to be induced. The baby heart
beat was 156, even though there was no
fluid around him, he was never in
distress at all. My pulse and blood
pressur was very high. They transported
me to the biggest hospital in Ohio. I
got there, even though they knew the
outcome, I was'nt treat like I was
having a baby. Nurses came in once and
awhile to check on me. The intern
doctor came and and came me meds to
induce my labor. At that time it was
like 8:30 p.m. December 27, 1999.
My Mom went and got the nurse to give
me something for the pain, well they
came in around 10 or so. And gave me
morphine. Well I started to feel like I
had to push, Mom and Joe went and got
the nurse they showed up around 11:00
or so. They finally got me to the Labor
and Delevirey room. It was around
11:45p.m. Well I fell alseep b/c it had
been rough. Well I woke uplike 5
mintues later, they were going to do a
epirdul, well the doctors let me get up
to go to the bathroom, I barley made it
to the bathroom and the baby came out,
it I did'nt grab the gown like I did
he would have hit the floor. I got back
up on the bed, I did'nt even relize
what was going on at that time. Joe and
Mom were crying. I could'nt cry. We
named him Kevin James. His middle name
was after Joe's brother Jim. I held
him for awhile, Mom and Joe held him
also.
I got a birth certificate, they took
pictures of him, he was born still
born, I think the hospital could have
done something if they would have came
and checked on me, but they did'nt.
The nurse took Kevin to the morgue. I
really did'nt want him to leave.
He weigh 10.9 oz and 10 inches long. He
was born December 27, 1999 he was due
May 13, 2000 a day before Mother's
Day.
I did'nt get much sleep at all really
the next day it hit me. They gave us
the choice to transport the baby with
us or have the funeral home come and
get Kevin. I decided to transport him
to the funeral home in my Mom's van.
They put him in a duffle bag Mom and
Joe took him to the van. The nurse gave
me my discharged papers and sent me
home.
This lady her name is Joan Maynard she
came in and gave me clthes to put Kevin
in and took polarid pictures of him.
I'm glad that I have pictures of him.
Well I kept telling Joe we have to go
since Kevin would be getting cold. He
did'nt know what to say to me. Well it
was snowing pretty bad. I took Kevin
out of the bag and held him the whole
way home it took almost two hours to
get home, because of the snow, I fell
alseep with him in my arms, we final;y
made it to the funeral home and I
started to lose it greatly. Joe carried
Kevin into the funeral home. We made
the arrangements for the funeral. We
buried Kevin James Mayabb December 30,
1999 at 1 p.m. He had his Dad's nose.
The day of the funeral was very hard
for Joe and I. He carried Kevin to
where he would be buried at. I lost it
right then. I had a special friend that
help Joe and I alot through everything
his name is Jeff Phipps. I really
appreciate everything he did for me and
Joe. Mom read a poem at the funeral,
she started to cry alot. The one person
I wanted so much to be there was my
Grandmother she had just gotten out of
the hospital that day.
Well we went to Joe's brother house
and we all went out to eat. I really
did'nt feel like doing anything at
all. My Aunt told my grandmother that
Kevin died, my grandmother had a
massive stroke and she was not going to
get any better. January 6, 2000 she was
worse, Kevin had only been gone a week
or so.
I went to the hospital laughing and
joking like crazy I did'nt know how to
react at all. I spoke to my grandma she
said she was going to go up to heaven
and take care of Kevin, because right
now my grandpa was taking care of him.
January 8, 2000 she passed away. Almost
two weeks after Kevin died. I know she
and Grandpa are in heaven taking care
of Joe and I baby boy. They will be
both sadley missed. Thank you for
letting us share our story.
Kevin James Mayabb
December 27, 1999 To December 27, 1999
Parents of Shy Archer and Joe Mayabb
Grandparents: Sandy and Raymond Cooper
Linda Neal
Aunts: Selena Archer
Uncles: Tim Dunn and Jim Mayabb
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